A program for lasting changes in anger management

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While it is important to manage anger, it is far more important to heal the personal history that is at the root of anger.

What makes this program different?
Boundaries and anger
Self esteem and and anger
How do my thoughts affect my anger?
Some other factors that affect anger management

What makes this program different?

Ours is a holistic approach to anger management that encompasses a wide range of issues such:

In addition, while group anger managment can be helpful, many issues that lead to anger are personal and individual. Hence, an individual approach affords the opportunity to reach deeper into the underlying issues that cause anger.

Boundaries and anger management

Sensible boundaries are essential to a calm state of mind. If someone does not feel comfortable setting limits and boundaries with others, resentments and anger will inevitably build. Such individuals will often describe themselves as a "door mat" or simply acknowledge their difficulty with the word "no". While communication skills can help here, often times it is negative childhood experiences that need to be addressed. For some, saying "no" was not allowed in their family of origin. Now, as adults they continue to have difficulty saying "no". For others, it was "don't speak unless you are spoken to." In the more tragic instances, setting boundaries was met with physical violence or emotional abuse.

Self esteem and anger

This connection may not be so obvious. What does self esteem have to do with anger? When someone feels "not good enough" (the core belief that underlies low self esteem), that very belief causes anxiety and depression. And anxiety and depression often show up as irritability.

How do my thoughts affect my anger?

How you interpret the behavior and more importantly, the motivation of others is pivotal in your reaction an behavior towards them. Take a simple example. Someone steps in front of you while you are waiting on a line. If you believe their motivation was to "get in front" and that they didn't care about how you feel, what do you think your emotion will be? If you believe they were absent minded or didn't notice you there, what do you think your emotion will be? All anger is preceded by some thought that you have been wronged in some way.

Working with your thinking is an essential piece in the anger management puzzle.

Some other factors that affect anger management

The ability to de-escalate is a valuable skill. De-escalating can be calling for a time out, changing to a more conciliatory communication style or offering a compromise solution.