by Michael Etts, LCSW-C
Personal change is difficult when one is still locked in the original mold (like this plastic airplane model)
For those with a false self, the family of origin mold remains intact and new relationships are appended to it.
False self - a persona or mask consisting of emotions (or lack of) and behaviors developed to meet the needs of the original caretaker.
Trigger - a current incident that is reminiscent of a prior emotional injury, which results in a disproportionate and intense emotional response.
True self - the spontaneous expression of emotion and individuality